Reaching the point when you are ready to ask for support can be intimidating because each of you may be afraid that the problems you are facing are your fault. However, the truth is that both of you have a part to play in your relationship reaching this point and finding a solution.
My view as a Marietta, Ga-based couples therapist is that your relationship is my client. Each of our sessions will be used not only to address your specific challenges, but it will also model healthy communication within a relationship.
We will explore what your vicious cycle of communication looks like. We will also look at the underlying reasons why you are struggling to connect. For example, if one of you is struggling with ADHD, I will educate both of you on what ADHD is and isn’t, figure out what the symptoms of ADHD look like within the relationship and to the individual experiencing it, and how their partner experiences it too.
Our work together will help you connect with and nurture yourself, have the skills and confidence to ask for what you want, allow vulnerability to connect to your partner, become the authors of your relationship story, and be resilient together when you experience life’s painful moments.
“Converting a complaint into a positive need requires a mental transformation from what is wrong with one’s partner to what one’s partner can do that would work. It may be helpful here to review my belief that within every negative feeling there is a longing, a wish, and, because of that, there is a recipe for success. It is the speaker’s job to discover that recipe. The speaker is really saying “Here’s what I feel, and here’s what I need from you.” Or, in processing a negative event that has already happened, the speaker is saying, “Here’s what I felt, and here’s what I needed from you.”
― John M. Gottman, The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples
* I currently do not accept insurance but I can provide a superbill for you to submit for out-of-network reimbursement. I do accept HSA credit cards and all other major credit cards, cash, and checks.
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